Our lives are rapidly evolving, changing, transforming, succumbing to the speed of the technological leviathan we created. Our worlds are also dissolving into a numb, lonely, and hungry life for “the latest and greatest” as well as deep human connection. The truth is we’re getting lonelier. We’re growing apart. Technology is too easy to blame for this divide. It’s our own fault. We hide behind technology because it’s easier than dealing with the pain of broken relationships.
In an interview with Conan O’Brien, Louis C. K., a stand-up comedian, talks about the growing popularity of cellphones with young kids. He mentions the need for kids to experiment being mean to one another. When a kid calls another kid “fat” to their face, they realize that doesn’t feel good; it hurts themselves as well as others. Cellphones, he believes, destroys this empathy. When a kid texts “You’re fat!” to another kid, they don’t have to deal with the consequences in person; they hide behind their digital persona. Louis is being funny, but true.
There is a growing disconnect between us and reality. In a study on depression and social media, more people have become depressed in the last 10 years since the introduction of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram than ever before. The question is: is technology to blame for our disconnect from each other or for our improper use of what was intended to connect us deeper? And if it is our fault, how can it be remedied?
Spike Jonze’s newest project, “Her,” is one of the only films brave enough to enter into our intimate relationship with technology. The film peers into the life of Theodore, portrayed by Joaquin Phoenix, who is going through a prolonged period of divorce (prolonged because he feels emotionally incapable of signing the divorce papers). His life feels empty. He is seemingly technologically savvy and curious about the “latest and greatest.” He plays holographic Kinect-motion-inspired video games alone in his studio loft located in the middle of future Los Angeles. His day-time job consists of him sitting at a desk, dictating to his computer the love letters other people aren’t capable of sending themselves to the ones that they love (another look at how distant everyone is from each other here).
One day in Theodore’s futuristic world, an advertisement for a new operating system called OS1 is released; it’s biggest feature being that it has Artificial Intelligence. Theodore goes home to install it into his phone. After answering a silly and meaningless personality quiz, a voice named Samantha is born (voiced by the enticing Scarlett Johansson). Slowly she begins to fill the emotional void in his heart left behind by his almost ex-wife, Catherine (played beautifully by Rooney Mara). And it’s through Theodore and Samantha’s relationship that we begin to question what the purpose of human relationships are, what to do with our depressive state of being, and ultimately what to do in living with ourselves.
The movie explores the joys of relationships, the sexual nature of human intimacy, and the trials that exist in any relationship involving more than just ourselves. How is a person supposed to feel in an increasingly disconnected culture? Are relationships intended for our own happiness, or is there something crucial that we’re missing? “Her” not only asks purposeful questions like these; it explores possible solutions to them, something most films aren’t brave enough to do.
I’ll let you sit with the film’s “solutions” yourself, but what I do want to mention is that Theodore needed his experience with Samantha. He learns that technology cannot fill the hole in our hearts, no matter how deeply we allow it to fill us. He learns through her what he needs to remain human, to be human. The cinematography is stunning and completely appropriate to the film. The art direction is incredible, retro, recycled from old styles, yet believably near-distant future. Arcade Fire composed the music for the film and it’s captivating. Possibly the best score I’ve heard since the last time a major band scored a film (see Tron: Legacy from Daft Punk).
See this film. Recognize that we are becoming increasingly disconnected from the real world as technology continues to make us question our self worth. Though it does have its moments of sexual encounters that can feel a bit awkward at times, they’re purposeful and explorative of the emotional human core as well as our deep need for human connection. “WALL-E” was the sci-fi cautionary tale of 2008, but “Her” is an honest look at what’s coming and how to brace for it.
Maybe there’s still hope for our disconnected future, but it isn’t from technology. “Her” let’s us learn from an atypical relationship what it means to find yourself again, what we need to survive in this lonely climate, and that technology isn’t meant to be more than a way to connect humans together with one another.